Divorce Children Raising Books : Crazy Time: Surviving Divorce and Building a New Life, Revised Edition

Crazy Time: Surviving Divorce and Building a New Life, Revised Edition

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Yes, but.... - This book was given to me by a friend whose opinion I value very much and I started reading it immediately and went over it several times. I cried a lot. Yes, this book strikes a lot of cords but it is very biased and I don t regard it as healthy (for me) in the long run. Her perspective might have worked for her but basically it s only her opinion about how marriage should work. She is a journalist, not a psychologist. From her perspective of her own marriage she started to investigate other people s marriage and found similarities. Yes, they exist. There is always one dominant partner, always a submissive partner.. always a kisser and kissed. But this is true for every human relationship, esp. marriages. I personally believe that a long standing marriage with the challenges of every day life only works if both partners are not equally independent, headstrong and intellectual equal.The majority of marriages were sub-conscience started because of the differences. Weak man seeks strong woman to become whole and vice versa.These differences are in every marriage, even in the healthy ones and this is the weakest point of the book. For her the differences are to blame. And since we all recognize on some level these patterns in our relationships this can make us feel guilty. Because of the way we are and we like to look for guilt in ourselves. We don t see that our partner stayed with us that long because we were that way, they did not go off because of it.She does not take into consideration that at a certain age we are supposed to deal with adults. With people who run extensive families, big companies, handle money, save lives, are responsible for the fate of others on their own choosing, who have children, grandchildren, friends and families. And everyone will be affected. Big time.Not because two people were in a maybe not so perfect marriage but because someone was not able to talk about his/her problems and take responsibility.Because it was easier to run off than to face and work on problems.And everyone has the right to be angry and hurt about this betrayal of the promise we married in the first place.. For Better And Worse.That book is a little bit to flippant about the subject of marriage.. Its a very superficial way to shrug shoulders and say.. okay..she/he had to run away because I was dominant/submissive.. okay.. I have taken my part in the blame where is the next partner because I am so mature now.Read it, think about it and think deep about your own marriage and take a grain of truth from it. But it is not a solution or an explanation for your marriage. The way she sees marriage and martial problems is her way, her ideas, her values and her explanations. It might not be your way to understand what went wrong with you two.

You Must OWN This Book - It s a year now since me and my wife of 20 years seperated. The most painful process I have EVER been through in my life. CRAZY TIMES has helped me not to feel better but to understand the whole situation. If yiou are getting divorced you need this manual, I cannot imagine getting as far along without out. BRILLIANT!Mr A Smith

Exceedingly helpful - essential reading for people divorcing - I found this book very helpful and illuminating, especially the abundant case studies. Everybody going through divorce will find an example which sounds familiar. It also helps understand why relationships fail, even though it may be too late (very often due to a power imbalance which leaves one or both partners feeling resentful, and a period of deadlock in which the problems are swept under the carpet and each partner tries to find fulfilment in things other than the marital relationship). I would point out that this is not a book for people still trying to repair their marriage, it is for those already on the divorce path. It pulls no punches - even for those who manage to build a better life, the crazy time is inevitable and usually lasts a couple of years at least. Some people don t get over this period - especially those without a strong support network. The basic message is one of hope, but without facile instant solutions. One gap in the book is that it pays hardly any attention to the effects of divorce on the children and how to alleviate that (but this is possibly because there are excellent books on the market devoted to that, like the one by E. Teyber). The book is focussed on the individual divorcing adults not the family unit as such.

The madness is to be expected, and will pass.... - I have lent this book,the old edition probably, and due to a certain craziness, forgot who I lent it to.It was excellent.I did not read its every word, as that was beyond me at that time.But it helped me to see that all of my emotions and the total tangle I was in had some sort of a pattern.It also explained the reversals that were throwing me off balance, and gave me confidence that I was still heading forward. My divorce was instigated by me, and was about a long marriage losing its way.It helped me to understand my own reactions, and gave me a context for the behaviour of my husband.So useful.

Definitely helps through the crazy times of a divorce! - If it doesn t gives all answers, it helps to structurise one s emotions, feelings, actions in diferent stages of the seperation process.




Crazy Time: Surviving Divorce and Building a New Life, Revised Edition